by Adrian Collins
"When I turn 18, I'm going to live with my birth mom." ..Said my 10-year-old son casually as we were taking a walk. My feet stopped. The question surprised but I didn't flinch. I didn't protest. I didn't change the subject. I didn't take it personally (at least-I tried). Instead, I asked questions. "Why do you want to move at 18?" "Because we adopted our sister when she was 18," was his response. I blinked. It dawned on me that his perception of watching our family re-adopt our birth daughter had caused our son to think that's what happens to every adoptee. They leave their home at 18 and move in with their birth family.