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How I'm learning to say "I don't know" and accept my imperfections as a mother

by Adrian Collins

I wanted to be the courageous birth mom. I wanted to be the attentive adoptive mom for my son. I wanted to be the loving mom for my three biological children. I wanted to have a deeper connection with the daughter I'd once given up for adoption and later adopted back into my family. And I wanted to do it all without breaking a sweat
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WHAT HAPPENED AFTER I RE-ADOPTED THE DAUGHTER I GAVE UP AS A NEWBORN

by Adrian Collins

As my daughter and I sipped lattes across from one another, I reflected on how far we'd come. At one point we were practically strangers. It was only three years ago that we'd adopted her into our family. I'd been optimistic that a connection between the two of us would be automatic, even natural. After all, I'm not only her adoptive mom...I'm also her birth mother.
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Embracing the Unexpected: How Adoption Intertwined Two Families

by Adrian Collins

Marva and Robin are adoptive parents raising birth siblings. Two years ago, they were introduced at an annual Hope's Promise Adoptive Families Picnic in Castle Rock Colorado, by a social worker who facilitated both of their adoptions. Not only did the siblings form a bond, but the adoptive parents began a life-long friendship
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God Knew All Along

by Adrian Collins

Sometimes it can be difficult to see God in the details of painful circumstances but this Hope's Promise blog reminds us that God sees us, God hears us and He knows better than we ever could.
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A Faith-Based Adoption Agency Helped Me in Crisis. Now, These Agencies Are Under Attack.

by Adrian Collins

Faith-based adoption agencies like Hope's Promise are vital to our society. Every woman who faces an unplanned pregnancy and chooses to make an adoption plan for their child also deserves the same right to choose which agency will support her throughout the adoption process. Navigating an unplanned pregnancy is difficult enough without the possibility that faith-based agencies will be forced to shut their doors.
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by Adrian Collins

During her junior year of college, Adrian became pregnant. She made an adoption plan for her daughter and returned to school to earn her degree in journalism. She subsequently married the birth father, suffered pregnancy loss, gave birth to three sons and adopted a fourth son. ** Almost twenty years after relinquishing their daughter, Adrian and her husband re-adopted her, making their family whole again. ** This is her story of grappling with grief and clinging to hope and forgiveness...,

The book that binds: Building a lasting relationship with my birth daughter

by Adrian Collins

"I hope you can forgive me. I hope one day we can meet." Before placing her daughter for adoption, TODAY Parenting Team contributor Adrian Collins wrote these words in a scrapbook she hoped would one day reunite her with her child. When her daughter was 12, her wish came true.
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Think Orphan Episode 106: Adrian Collins - Choosing Life

In episode 106, Adrian Collins, an adoptive mother and advocate for women facing unplanned pregnancies.
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Forcing faith-based agencies out of the system is a disservice to women

by Mary Beth Waddell, Opinion Contributor

During debate, amendment opponents tried to paint it as "discriminatory," when, in fact, it stops discrimination. I appreciate the Members who spoke to point this out and want to further discuss Rep. Jaime Herrera Beutler's (R-Wash.) comments supporting a birth mother's right to choose whatever agency she wishes and her child's adoptive parents. Her points are well taken and advocated by birth mothers. Women who find themselves unexpectedly pregnant are often scared, nervous, overwhelmed, and everything in between. These emotions are exponentially compounded by the hormonal changes in their bodies. Kelly Clemente and Adrian Collins were college students when they found out they were pregnant
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A Birth Mom Appeals to CO Legislators: Protect Faith-Based Adoption Agencies

by Adrian Collins

Collins says navigating an unplanned pregnancy is difficult enough without the possibility of faith-based agencies having to close for lack of funding or worse yet, government intervention. Collins writes, "Birth parents deserve to have their voices heard." "Our country was founded on the basis of religious freedom, and within that freedom are the rights of faith-based agencies to represent a birth mother's religious beliefs," she said. "Removing faith-based agencies in Colorado may create unnecessary fears, anxiety and possible depression for birth mothers who already face a difficult decision."
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This Is My Choice: A Birth Mom's Plea to Protect Faith-Based Adoption Agencies

by Adrian Collins

Faith-based adoption agencies are vital to our society. Every woman who faces an unplanned pregnancy and chooses to make an adoption plan for their child also deserves the same right to choose which agency will represent her in the adoption process. Navigating an unplanned pregnancy is difficult enough without the possibility of faith-based agencies being forced to shut their doors.
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Love Does Adoption

by Adrian Collins

There is a growing stack of books on my nightstand that I intend to read one of these days. Some nights I manage to read a few pages. Most nights I barely skim a paragraph or two before my eyes glaze over and the book gets returned to the stack. Last week during my usual bedtime routine, I sleepily reached for the top of the stack and pulled the book, "Love Does" by Bob Goff under the bedcovers, expecting to read a few pages before drifting off to sleep.
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How Adoption Taught Me to Be.Strong

by Adrian Collins

I used to think strength was defined by moms who did it all without breaking a sweat. Moms who managed a household of babies, preschoolers and teenagers with airbrushed makeup and beach-wave tousled hair. Moms who made fluffy, homemade gluten-free pancakes and still found the energy to hit the gym every day. Moms who drove around in a crumb-free, vacuumed car.
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Don't Shut Me Out and Other Advice From a Birth Mom to an Adoptive Parent

by Adrian Collins

The minutes on the hospital clock dwindled as I swaddled my infant daughter one last time before she was permanently placed in the arms of her adoptive family. In those final moments, I thought my heart might shatter into a thousand slivers without any hope of being mended. I was broken. Scarred. Devastated. When I left the hospital without my baby, it felt like someone was pounding on my chest with both fists and I couldn't catch my breath. The emptiness that followed was inconceivable. A piece of me, my daughter, was gone.
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I Went In For an Abortion - and Left With a Changed Life

by Adrian Collins

After all these years, my dad still calls me his Butterfly. I was given the name as a young child after I'd mastered every lyric to the Sunday School favorite, "If I were a Butterfly," and knew all the hand motions by heart. My dad beamed with pride as I'd wrap together my big thumbs and flutter my fingers to resemble a monarch in flight while singing at the top of my voice. Each morning, my mom would twist my curly, blond hair into two pigtails, and I'd stare at my reflection in the mirror and wonder if I was like a real butterfly: Bright. Delicate. Beautiful. Transformed.
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Colorado Children First Act Senate Hearing, April 22, 2018 Testimony

by Adrian Collins

Madame Chairwoman-Members of the Committee, My name is Adrian Collins and I am a birth mom.
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An Adoption Story: How God's Love Is Revealed

by Adrian Collins

My son who joined our family through adoption celebrates his tenth birthday this February. Looking into his chocolate brown eyes, I'm still in awe of how God touched my heart through adoption. Not only did God use adoption to transform me into a better mom, He showed me I was capable of more love than I thought existed.